are you a control freak?

Have you ever been advised to let go of your controlling habit so your life could be easier?
Well, I know quite a few people who are experiencing difficulties about control issues. I have been one of them. If you are lucky enough to not know what this means, I will explain it briefly. It means a person trying to control his/her decisions as well as those of others.
Please understand there is no judgement here. It is what it is and there is always a reason behind that. A control freak is neither a bad nor a good person. He/she is a person just like you and me.

What does a person who lives with a control freak feel?
Lets start from the perspective of the people who live with a control freak. This can be seriously frustrating because those people usually feel like their right to make decisions and to have choices are taken away from them because someone else makes decisions on behalf of them. This damages their self-esteem. They start to struggle about making decisions and moving forward in life. Further, heavy feelings such as resentment, anger, fear, regret, sadness start to build up in their system.
Like all other things in life, the person may be learning something from this situation. Perhaps, they are learning about their own power, speaking their truth, expressing their thoughts and feelings, or having confidence and self love? It could be any of these or more. What is important is to have awareness about the situation and decide to learn any lessons that may come from this difficult experience through positive and inspiring ways.

How does it feel to be a control freak?
Well, I personally don’t think it is a fun or joyful thing to be a control freak. I haven’t met anybody who is a control freak and who actually enjoys being so. Please do let me know, if you do enjoy being a control freak as I would love to hear more about it. I promise you that you are learning something from being a control freak and the moment you understand what it is you are learning, you can let this habit go…
Trying to control everything or most of the things in life is exhausting, consuming and draining for the person. It takes away the joy of life. Life becomes a struggle. A person like this usually doesn’t know how to relax and rest. They mostly have beliefs about being responsible for everybody in their lives or having to help everybody around them. Can you imagine living with this burden on your shoulders? These people also have dense feelings such as resentment, anger, hatred, frustration, sadness, guilt, loneliness, regret and many more…

What Could Help?
ThetaHealing® is an efficient holistic therapy technique for those who suffer from control issues. The sessions address the root cause of the problem in the subconscious mind and offer a solution to release blocking thoughts and feelings and to move forward.  

Furthermore, there are some questions that could help to create awareness if you struggle with control issues.

• When did you first find yourself in this situation?
• Why do you need to be in this situation?
• How could things be changed for better?
• What do you need to learn/know/feel to change this situation for better?
• What are the possible learnings you may be getting from this situation?

You don’t have to have answers to these questions immediately. However, ask them over and over and listen to your inner voice and the voice of the highest energy around us.

Free Will is the Key
Now, I would like to offer some guidance about a concept which is key for a happy life in my view. That is the concept of Free Will and the right to make choices. We all have free will whether you accept it or not. That’s our divine right and we all were born with it. My life changed incredibly for better when I overcame my fears about accepting Free Will. I did have fears because I knew accepting Free Will meant accepting the fact that everybody had their own right to make their own decisions independently. This means sometimes we see a loved one making a decision which causes them pain and suffering. It is our choice to offer them our love, support and guidance however we also need to respect that it is their choice to receive what we have to offer. We have no control over others’ free will and their choices. They are responsible for their lives and we are responsible for our lives. We can choose to be responsible for others as well however only with their free will and acceptance. Understanding this truly makes it easy to let go of control.
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So, What is Control?
Having control means making your own choices with your free will and being responsible for your thoughts, feelings, decisions, and choices. This requires having acceptance and respect for others’ free will and choices.
 
Stay with Love,
Evrim