What does it take to have healthy gums and a healthy bump?
I made a visit to my dentist few days ago. The last visit before that was about 7 months ago.
He checked my gums and teeth out and said "You have such healthy gums especially considering you are 6.5 months pregnant! I am very impressed! Keep doing whatever you are doing."
It made me so happy of course. Firstly, because I have healthy gums, secondly I knew what was behind it.
I always had a healthy diet, healthy life style and had a good mouth care however I also always had issues about my gums and teeth. What has changed?
Here is MY SECRET to this change. I have worked on a significant aspect of my lifestyle. My inner world - my beliefs and my feelings.
Problems about the gums and teeth, like the skeletal system in general, are mostly about SUPPORT in life. This means feeling supported, knowing how to ask for help and support, accepting support without guilt and not trying to do all on your own. I had some issues around this subject of asking and accepting support during whole my life until recently. I somehow thought I had to be a superwoman - never tired, never unhappy, never needing rest! Sounds familiar? I am glad to give you the good news that life doesn't have to be that way.
Further, I also felt lack of connection with, awareness and understanding of a Divine energy, which you may like to name God, Universe or Creator, most of my life until recent years.
Suddenly, in the past year, I started to feel that I had amazing support in all aspects of my life. My lovely husband and my family are always there to support and help me. I have many beautiful friends whom I can call, text, reach out anytime to ask help, sometimes just for Love and Understanding. I am part of a very supporting entrepreneurs network.
Moreover, I always feel the presence, the existence and the love of a greater energy around me. I never feel alone. This is the biggest gift of the work I am doing.
Getting support makes me feel happy, whereas it used to make me feel guilty and uncomfortable most of the time in the past.
Those beautiful people I have in my life always existed. They are real. What changed is not them, it is me - it is my thoughts, my awareness, my feelings, my reaction to the events of life.
Let me give you an example. I am in Athens, doing Theta Healing Instructors Training while typing this post right now. I am here for 2 weeks while my husband and my son are together enjoying their trip to Turkey. I feel happy, light and peaceful about the entire arrangement. Going back to 2 years ago, I couldn't handle the heavy feelings of guilt, sadness and anxiety for being away for such a long time. The work I have done on myself as well as the work I have done with my clients paid off wonderfully.
Whatever we choose, we can also choose to be happy about it.
If you have issues about feeling unsupported, finding it difficult to ask support and also accepting support when offered, I strongly suggest you look inside yourself gently. It is not your fault, there is nothing wrong about you. You may simply not be aware of your beliefs and your feelings causing this issue.
If you feel like you need support from a professional, I am here to give you that support.
I am only a click away from you.
Stay with Love,
are you a control freak?
Have you ever been advised to let go of your controlling habit so your life could be easier?
Well, I know quite a few people who are experiencing difficulties about control issues. I have been one of them. If you are lucky enough to not know what this means, I will explain it briefly. It means a person trying to control his/her decisions as well as those of others.
Please understand there is no judgement here. It is what it is and there is always a reason behind that. A control freak is neither a bad nor a good person. He/she is a person just like you and me.
What does a person who lives with a control freak feel?
Lets start from the perspective of the people who live with a control freak. This can be seriously frustrating because those people usually feel like their right to make decisions and to have choices are taken away from them because someone else makes decisions on behalf of them. This damages their self-esteem. They start to struggle about making decisions and moving forward in life. Further, heavy feelings such as resentment, anger, fear, regret, sadness start to build up in their system.
Like all other things in life, the person may be learning something from this situation. Perhaps, they are learning about their own power, speaking their truth, expressing their thoughts and feelings, or having confidence and self love? It could be any of these or more. What is important is to have awareness about the situation and decide to learn any lessons that may come from this difficult experience through positive and inspiring ways.
How does it feel to be a control freak?
Well, I personally don’t think it is a fun or joyful thing to be a control freak. I haven’t met anybody who is a control freak and who actually enjoys being so. Please do let me know, if you do enjoy being a control freak as I would love to hear more about it. I promise you that you are learning something from being a control freak and the moment you understand what it is you are learning, you can let this habit go…
Trying to control everything or most of the things in life is exhausting, consuming and draining for the person. It takes away the joy of life. Life becomes a struggle. A person like this usually doesn’t know how to relax and rest. They mostly have beliefs about being responsible for everybody in their lives or having to help everybody around them. Can you imagine living with this burden on your shoulders? These people also have dense feelings such as resentment, anger, hatred, frustration, sadness, guilt, loneliness, regret and many more…
What Could Help?
ThetaHealing® is an efficient holistic therapy technique for those who suffer from control issues. The sessions address the root cause of the problem in the subconscious mind and offer a solution to release blocking thoughts and feelings and to move forward.
Furthermore, there are some questions that could help to create awareness if you struggle with control issues.
Free Will is the Key
Now, I would like to offer some guidance about a concept which is key for a happy life in my view. That is the concept of Free Will and the right to make choices. We all have free will whether you accept it or not. That’s our divine right and we all were born with it. My life changed incredibly for better when I overcame my fears about accepting Free Will. I did have fears because I knew accepting Free Will meant accepting the fact that everybody had their own right to make their own decisions independently. This means sometimes we see a loved one making a decision which causes them pain and suffering. It is our choice to offer them our love, support and guidance however we also need to respect that it is their choice to receive what we have to offer. We have no control over others’ free will and their choices. They are responsible for their lives and we are responsible for our lives. We can choose to be responsible for others as well however only with their free will and acceptance. Understanding this truly makes it easy to let go of control.
So, What is Control?
Having control means making your own choices with your free will and being responsible for your thoughts, feelings, decisions, and choices. This requires having acceptance and respect for others’ free will and choices.
Stay with Love,
Evrim Numanoglu Ozgen is an Empowerment and Healing Coach, whose passion is to explore the depth of human potential and possibilities of life.