Who do you attract to your life?
What kind of teachers, coaches, healers, therapists could help you with your current issues?
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear... so true.
I worked with so many teachers, mentors and coaches for both professional and personal aspects of my life. Some were good, some great, some not so good for my needs.
Looking back to those who were not so good now, I can say with confidence that I was not ready or willing to take whatever they were teaching. A good example is a private career coaching I had 4 years ago, which added no value to me apart from me feeling even worse about going back to a corporate job. Because I had no intention to have a "job" again. I knew that deep inside but I pretended I did want to find a job. All I had in my heart was staying in entrepreneurship and finding what I would love to spend my life doing with.
On the other hand, we attract people who enter our lives for a reason. There is always a lesson we learn from them.
Sometimes, the reason may not be obvious at the time but there is always a right time to find out about what we learned from those people. Going back to the same example of the career coach I had, I must admit that it helped me realize and accept what I truly wanted to do in my life. As a result, I completely stopped thinking about and looking for a job after the coaching I have got. That probably wasn’t a desired result for my coach in terms of how she measured her work`s performance however that was the reason I needed her services even though I didn’t know it at the time.
I now have a mentor, who is a Theta Healing Practitioner & Instructor and a life coach. I have been working with her for 9 months and my life transformed in that duration. The limiting beliefs I have released in all aspects of my life would have taken a couple of life times unless I went through such an intense emotional and mental cleansing and growth with her. The results don’t only impact me but my family, network of friends, my clients, literally everybody I come across in my life. She is truly amazing; however, I still might not have met her, had I not been ready for this transformation and investing in myself.
At a webinar my mentor has done for her mentees recently, we have covered the difference between a pretext and a purpose for taking an action. The pretext is what appears to be the issue for searching for a solution or taking an action. On the other hand, the real purpose underneath is usually hidden. Our souls and hearts know that purpose however our conscious minds usually don`t acknowledge that. This also applies to working with a coach, mentor, therapist, and healer.
Here is an example. Let’s imagine a woman who has hip pain which has been with her for years. Her pretext is hip pain. She wants to get rid of that pain so she could enjoy her life better. She finds a healer and starts working with that person. She takes couple of sessions. Her pain eases a bit but doesn’t go away however she experiences improvement in other areas of her life. Her business partner, with whom she had been having some issues decides to leave the business. Following that, she makes some important decisions about her business. Her hip pain doesn’t go away completely. She continues the healing sessions and each session leads to a new issue and solution. Within a couple of months, she decides that she doesn’t want to continue running her business and looks for a buyer, which comes to her shortly after her decision. So, she sells her business and opens a new page in her life. The story goes on with more changes, some easy, some challenging in her life.
The message here is that the initial issue she searched for help is still there. It hasn’t been cured completely. Because that was not what she truly needed. There are still reasons why she still holds onto that hip pain. However, the events that she needed to happen in her life were much bigger than that and her soul knew that she had to find a way, an opening to those issues.
The conclusion here is that we need to have a broader perspective about things happening in our lives. Many people get frustrated with the results or lack of results they get from their own actions and from services such as coaching, therapy and healing. Feeling frustrated blocks your improvement, and most importantly prevents you seeing a bigger picture and your purpose. One step at a time… this is such an important concept. Just like life itself, healing is a journey, not a quick fix. When we change our perspective, the right teachers, coaches and healers appear in our lives.
Stay with love,
Evrim Numanoglu Ozgen is an Empowerment and Healing Coach, whose passion is to explore the depth of human potential and possibilities of life.